How to Approach a Group of Girls

You’re out, in a place where groups of humans can be found, some of which are females, a handful of said females attract your attention, you want to begin talking to said girls in hopes to explore a meaningful relationship – but you’re too scared to approach, what do you do? Find out here!

Posted on March 13, 2016 .

The 7 Important Aspects of Leadership

Did you know leadership could be learned, by anyone?  And, with enough practice, you can achieve the confidence that cures fear and realises leadership. 

I have summarised 7 Traits that I believe are the most critical for any leader to possess to lead people and be influential in their own right. Read on if you dare.

Posted on October 7, 2015 .

Self Acceptance vs. Self Improvement

Here is a quick video discussing the paradox of self acceptance and self improvement. I identify the key themes of each concept and highlight 3 ways in which you can find a happy balance.

Ever felt complacent or stagnant? How about spreading yourself too thin, comparing yourself to others and not getting anything done? If so, than this video is for you!

I mention an online resource for character strength identification, here is it: (click on the VIA Survey of Character Strengths)

https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/testcenter

Posted on September 2, 2015 .

Tongue Tied to Confident Conversationalist

At key encounters, do you find yourself nervous?  Maybe adding unnecessary words onto your sentences?  Afraid of any gaps in the conversation?

Here are 4 tips that may help:

1. Be comfortable with silence. If there’s nothing to say, don’t force it. People will take notice more when they know what you say has a purpose. Speak to be understood, not heard. 

2. Slow down. When there is a feeling we may be being ignored, we tend to try and get our thoughts out in a hurry before someone loses interest. This can have the opposite effect, but if you slow down, and even speak softer, you invite people to focus more on what you’re saying and allow time to relax and let the conversation happen.

3. While driving, challenge yourself to give a 5-minute seminar to yourself about any topic. Speaking to yourself (as crazy as it might seem) allows you to just talk without the pressure that comes with an interaction and allows you to take risks, try new things, practice scripted jokes etc. while also allowing you to stop, restart and correct yourself where YOU see fit. 

4. On your way to a potentially stressful situation, try singing along to a favourite song.  This can warm up your vocal chords and start the words flowing, almost like reciting a script you know off by heart.  

As an old Rugby coach once said, practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect. 

Posted on August 9, 2015 .

How to improve vocal tonality

Hey guys, so here is a quick and easy tip to use in your future interactions. Shotgun bullets vs laser beams. The theory behind it is that when you're out in a public setting, it is often a challenge to engage and maintain strong connections with people, especially when you are in a group. This is often due to the amount of external distractions such as music, friends, lights, dancing etc. One way I have found to be effective in improving my engagement with people is by delivering my words with complete focus and intent. Speak to be understood, not to be heard. 

Posted on July 31, 2015 .

Day Game with Todd

Social dynamics should never be left for the clubs or bars, approaching and the power of conversation is 24/7. So here are 3 modes of day game shown by Todd from RSD.

Comment below what you think. 

Posted on July 30, 2015 .